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Originally Posted by tetter  Be honest and don’t take it personally yourself! Bad thoughts are a part of life and human nature if you will...and most of them are personal! Forums are a place for personal opinions and most of the time unsolicited EXTRA advice.
So its really about the way you take it.
My personal view on things like what you described is that those "types" need to have some kind of oasis for venting their own personal frustrations about social or personal injustices and have chosen a not so effective but much more accessible way to accomplish that.
Understanding online socialization is a new field and there are many psychological aspects that haven’t been explored yet.
Needless to say (from my point of view) online is not the same as face to face relationship. You are at the mercy of how well someone may put together their comment and opinion. Face to face (most) people are restricted by social phobia and unspoken rules about interaction.
We also subconsciously use body language and voice fluctuation to enhance the understanding in communications between each other face to face, that is not possible online.
In other words its easier to take things the wrong way online.
Your interpretation is colored by your own personal feelings and emotions and sensitivities at the time you read.
Online etiquette is kind of subjective when it comes to opinions.
Also, how you respond is so much easier than when you are face to face.
Online you can choose to ignore!!! that person and talk “past” their undesired comments; where at one point words may have caused an altercation face to face. J |
Excellent post/response. Shows a lot of understanding. I would like to add that the following three quotes represent what I think is very appropriate to this thread. I try to remember this type of understanding (usually too late ), when I start judging what I think are stupid things.
When you see a good man, try to emulate his example, and when you see a bad man, search yourself for his faults. Confusius
Wise men contemplate the world, knowing full well that they are contemplating themselves. James Cowan
When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. Wayne Dyer