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First, deadbeat dads aren't just from marriages. Even though (if your statistic is correct) two out of three divorces are filed by the woman, that doesn't mean only one out of every three guys chooses to leave his family. Many of the deadbeat dads were not married to the mother of their children to begin with.

Second, it seems that though you don't want to get divorced things are amicable (you're in the same home watching sappy tv together). Your wife doesn't seem to be intent on hurting you. You can have the custody documents written as to prohibit moves further than a certain distance. If you want to spend loads of time with your daughter, have it written up so that you get 50/50 custody. Unless there is something you haven't mentioned it doesn't look as if your wife intends to stop you from seeing your daughter.

Third, I don't believe it can be conclusively said that the best interest of the child is to have both parents 24/7.

My main point is, instead of looking at how you are a victim of your situation, how about taking steps to make sure you are in your daughter's life. Someone who deserts his child deserves the title "deadbeat dad" to me. There are plenty such men. I don't think we are calling great fathers who want to provide for and see their children deadbeat dads simply because they do not reside with the mother and child. Do you? You are not that. It doesn't seem your wife will paint you as such. Forget about deadbeat dads and the bad rap they get (um, boo-hoo). Just do what's best for you and your daughter. This is not your wife's fault or yours. It's just reality.