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tommyboy567 · 04-10-2008, 12:02 PM

From what i have experience in life in the relationships norm is a unique and complicated feeling. recently "4 month ago" my ex girlfriend broke up with me. The reason is that she wasn't ready for a relationship and all of that good stuff of insecurity. I though that she really felt that way so i respected her and let her go. A month or so after, i found out that she is in a relationship and just recently found out that she "love" this guy. I'm not a stalker or anything but i have the tendency to have the urge to see how the Exs are doing rather if its on myspace or facebook. The reason is that some where in me i can't let go. It have been 4 month and i should have moved on but there is something about it that cause me to feel discontent with myself.
She was the first person i ever cared about, even tho i have alot of pevious gfs that was only involved with sex, drugs, and alcohol. This girl actually made me become a caring guy rather then a As*hole that i used to be. After the break up i started not to care about anything anymore. sometime when life F**K you over you become more in-depth with yourself on who you are. And when I look around it seems more obvious that when people that were hurt in previous relationships often act more self-center towards other as they used to or what i like to say *♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥* They stop caring for others because they are afraid of getting hurt again. once a person betread the relationship, the the person that got betread developed a inner personal feelings for others and start developing a shield within the inner personal feelings. I found it ironic how a single relationship can turn you into a different person with a different thoughts of oneself and others.
Do you believe or disagree with this statement?

04-10-2008, 12:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
tommyboy567 Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: des moines, iowa. USA Posts: 9	anology on development of people in relationships. From what i have experience in life in the relationships norm is a unique and complicated feeling. recently "4 month ago" my ex girlfriend broke up with me. The reason is that she wasn't ready for a relationship and all of that good stuff of insecurity. I though that she really felt that way so i respected her and let her go. A month or so after, i found out that she is in a relationship and just recently found out that she "love" this guy. I'm not a stalker or anything but i have the tendency to have the urge to see how the Exs are doing rather if its on myspace or facebook. The reason is that some where in me i can't let go. It have been 4 month and i should have moved on but there is something about it that cause me to feel discontent with myself. She was the first person i ever cared about, even tho i have alot of pevious gfs that was only involved with sex, drugs, and alcohol. This girl actually made me become a caring guy rather then a Ashole that i used to be. After the break up i started not to care about anything anymore. sometime when life FK you over you become more in-depth with yourself on who you are. And when I look around it seems more obvious that when people that were hurt in previous relationships often act more self-center towards other as they used to or what i like to say ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥* They stop caring for others because they are afraid of getting hurt again. once a person betread the relationship, the the person that got betread developed a inner personal feelings for others and start developing a shield within the inner personal feelings. I found it ironic how a single relationship can turn you into a different person with a different thoughts of oneself and others. Do you believe or disagree with this statement?