[skywalker160]

Originally Posted by Angela

If a girl is bummed out about issues in her previous relationship, she's not available for a loving, long-term mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR) with you.

If you were to try push her or even gently lead her into a LLTMBR, she would be carrying her old pain with her, and you would get to deal with that, rather than the authentic girl. That's not a LLTMBR, that's an ordinary, reactive, struggling relationship. You can do that if you choose, of course, but wouldn't a LLTMBR work better in living a life you love?

I would give her some room and some time to work through her old pain, and be her supportive friend. This is a great way for you to experience her and the way she deals with personal growth, and see if it's the kind of person you'd like to partner with in your own personal growth.

Spot on answer Angela.

I couldn't have said it better myself

Jonathan