Your actions are going to cause pain; there's no way around that. I know I, personally, would most appreciate someone coming to me in honesty, telling me their feelings clearly - no games or not communicating. It sounds like this is a decision that you've come to on your own, though, without telling her your doubts all along?
I'm asking because I did that once to a man I lived with - basically came home one day, telling him I wanted to break up. I didn't give him a chance to have any input, or try to find a way to work things out. I really regret this, now. Not that I want to be with him, but to at least have gotten everything out in the open - my feelings, our situation, etc. It was a cold way to deal with another person! I was young.
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