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timeline · 04-09-2008, 08:14 AM

Hello all,

I've decided to put an end to a relationship that doesn't make me feel like in the relationship I want. Unfortunately things are not that easy, we live together and this year we planned to marry. Things are very involved at the least.

The thing is, my left brain tells me that breaking up is the right thing for me and her to do. These thoughts are activated in my mind when I am away from her, like right now when I am at work. My best friend advised me that it will be better for me to give up this commited relationship also. I guess it's another left brain.

But when I am home with her the right brain gets activated. The moment I am trying to discuss things like these I feel very bad, I think I still love her somehow, it breaks my heart when I see her suffering. Like yesterday evening we had (another) fight and I said that maybe we are not that compatible personalities as we thought at first. She said she can't believe that I am thinking that far. Then we make up and leave it as it is.

So how to break up? How to find the power to resist? I want to make it as painless as possible for her and me. I even found an article over the internet saying that a way is to stop communicating and the relationship will fall apart by itself but I think this is a ruthless way to end a relationship.

Thank you all!

04-09-2008, 08:14 AM	#1 (permalink)
timeline Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 7	Leaving commited relationship Hello all, I've decided to put an end to a relationship that doesn't make me feel like in the relationship I want. Unfortunately things are not that easy, we live together and this year we planned to marry. Things are very involved at the least. The thing is, my left brain tells me that breaking up is the right thing for me and her to do. These thoughts are activated in my mind when I am away from her, like right now when I am at work. My best friend advised me that it will be better for me to give up this commited relationship also. I guess it's another left brain. But when I am home with her the right brain gets activated. The moment I am trying to discuss things like these I feel very bad, I think I still love her somehow, it breaks my heart when I see her suffering. Like yesterday evening we had (another) fight and I said that maybe we are not that compatible personalities as we thought at first. She said she can't believe that I am thinking that far. Then we make up and leave it as it is. So how to break up? How to find the power to resist? I want to make it as painless as possible for her and me. I even found an article over the internet saying that a way is to stop communicating and the relationship will fall apart by itself but I think this is a ruthless way to end a relationship. Thank you all!