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Originally Posted by Vasilisa  I think everybody is too preoccupied with being liked by other sex. A person should be oneself in the relationship. With all bad and good traits.
Honest and open. That's about it.
If you feel a need for something - say about it. If you want a woman -express it in some way (subtle  . If she doesn't like it , don't bother, there are plenty of others.
Give flowers, say compliments and pay in the restaurants but only if you want to do it for this particular woman, if you want to make her happy and get a smile on her face, not because you want get something out of her. If you don't feel it, don't do it. We feel when it's fake.
And the biggest turn on for women is brave, courageous men. We don't like chickens, so don't behave like one. Get rid of the submissive postures, too sweet smiles and feminine gestures. And if you have a chance to demonstrate your confidence and courage in front of the woman in the social situation - you are lucky, don't miss it!
I could say more. But I am afraid to say too much. 
I constantly discuss stuff like that with my girlfriends, so I have a general view of what most of us like. |
This is a contradiction. First you say "be yourself, honest and open, etc..", then you go on to say that to attract women, men should adopt certain qualities like confidence and courage. To get rid of submissive postures, and don't behave like a "chicken". Well, which one is it?!
Personally, I have been giving a lot of thought lately to the idea of being one's self. What does this really mean? Does anyone really KNOW who they are? I certainly don't, because I am constantly changing, trying to improve in areas where I perceive I am weak. So when someone tells me to "just be yourself", I get very frustrated, because I don't even know who that is yet! Not to mention, I hate the thought of stagnation. People who live by the mantra of "why should I have to change?" also frustrate me to no end. The only constant in this life is change. Embrace it. Be a part of it, and let it be a part of you. That being said, how does one maintain identity? Is identity just something created by the ego? Is it important at all?