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Originally Posted by missing  We'd both rather satisfy a need for female companionship in an honest, open way. And society gives us no help in this manner. |
Well, I would argue that there is plenty of opportunity out there to meet great women. I mean, seriously, women are everywhere. I think what you are talking about is actually a situation where it's a gentle progression that makes it easy for you to open up to somebody? Whilst other people are making fun of each other, you want to be taking things really gently and easily- having polite, honest conversation? I totally get that by the way.
Thing is that's like wanting to use training wheels on a bike. My theory is that for most people those training wheels were on between the age of around 12 and 15. At that age everybody is trying on new ways of being and romance generally occurs almost by polite agreement! I call it the time before banter.
However by the age of 16-18 most people have matured to the point where they are confident enough to "banter." Anybody who lacks the confidence and abundance mindset to see the amusement in playfully insulting one another is to be sympathised with at best, obused at worst. Of course I'm generalising wildly but bear with me because I'm just trying to get my point across as clearly as possible.
Way I see it if you missed the boat between age 12-15 when everyone was learning their adult social skills, well you're gonna have to find a way to undo all the horrible negative thought processes that have become habits during your period of estrangement. That's difficult of course. Very difficult. Much easier is putting in new confident thought processes, but that's still very difficult because you have to do it without those training wheels that allow you to find your feet to begin with. It comes down to really learning to put your personality on the line- be vulnerable! Fastest way to obtain the confidence to be vulnerable is to do something abhorently embarrassing.
