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Old 04-08-2008, 02:11 PM   #16 (permalink)
Joely
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Originally Posted by Rockchick26 View Post
I realize this. And i was just thinking about this today at work. I COULD do this,there's no question about it. But in exchange for that,i would have to move in with my mom and probably suffer extreme sleep deprivation. (because i would have to keep my job but i wouldnt be able to afford to live on my own anymore). And my freedom and my sleep are just as important to me as my career/job,so,thats why i'm still on the fence about this because i'm torn!

Well i have thought about that,.and thats where i came up with the end result of having to move back in with my mom because in order to pay for college i couldn't afford rent anymore. And i still couldn't quit my job so then i'd be working all night (i work the graveyard shift) and staying up all day for school and then i would be lucky if i got 4 or 5 hours of sleep a day. I would also have to drive an hour or more round trip every day for school since i dont live near any. Not to mention once i get my dream job,there is nothing like that around here so i would have to give up my family. I already tried to get them to move to CA with me but they won't. So basically i realized that i would have to give up EVERYTHING for this,my freedom,my family,my sleep/health...ugh i wonder how other people do it.
I understand it's tough, sweetie. After all, for two years I worked a nine hour day, walked a couple miles back and forth to get to my job, then had to divide the rest of my time between completing my PhD thesis and writing Amnar. It's tough. I also moved to a city where I didn't know anybody at all. I don't think I slept for most of those two years!

I'm not bragging, I'm saying it's possible. Right now I'm doing brilliantly, because I was prepared to go through that to get to where I am now. I've found friends and support and amazing things have come along because I've been open to anything happening to make what I want come true. You can do that too! My friend has put herself on the brink of financial ruin for the sake of her dream of being in a successful band. Sometimes you do have to be prepared to lose it all for the sake of gaining it all.

Would it all be loss if you went for this? What would you gain by doing this? Would the pleasure of actually going for it wipe out the need for sleep? Would it be thrilling to move to somewhere like CA and have great new adventures?

I think, in the end, you have to go with whatever works for you. If it works for you to stay where you are, love where you are and what you're doing with your life. And if you want to change, then allow the change to happen. Whenever I get into a situation I want to change, I write down seven simple things that would make it easier to be at peace with it. Amazingly, these things actually come about for me and I find peace. Maybe that could work for you.
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