Dear Leelene,
I agree with the things that you said. I am an only and I understand you. I have met 3 onlieas in my life and they have the same problems. We understand eachother. I think that their are other onlies who do not fall into the same category maybe because they lived in an extended family with cousins or they have half brothers and sisters that they have spent their lives with in the same house. A child becomes a real only if they had no children living with them in the same house at the critical age from birth to about 10 years. After that even if you get a sibling you might still carry some characteristics of the only.
Non Onlies do not realy understand us. Sometimes however much You analise things and try to explain to them they might understand at the moment but soon forget and revert back to their norms.
We have to understand them too. It is their wealth of knowledge and training on social interaction that they got at their critical age of 0 to 10 years which makes them very socially smart. (Imaginne mom brings a small cake home. They have to share it or else suffer the consquences. As for an only, she/he could eat the whole thing by him/herself but the consequences are much less drastic.
Well that is all for now. I guess we have a lot to talk about.
Niroshan
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