Really good post. Not sure I'm with you on the 'aura' part, but your post resonates reality.
I agree (for once
) with Angela. You have to take 100% responsibility for your thoughts.
In fact you have to consciously drive out negativity when you first hear that negative thought in your head. Its difficult. It can be despairing sometimes; like trying to hold back a wave of negative thoughts with only your self to do it.
One thing though, which I dont think is mentioned often enough is that slow creeping success that all of us 'failures' have, but dont notice.
Its like we try to be 100% full on positive/PD driven/successfull but invariably slip back to where we were before.
However, unknown to us, we build up a residue of effort beneath us which slowly builds up over the years and lifts up higher and higher. Its like trying to chop down a huge old oak tree with a single axe. Over time we make little effort but below us is a couple of inches of hard matter built up from our efforts.
Good luck people.