Generation X nice guys (guys like me in the mid to late 30's) did exactly what was posted here. We most likely had a lousy (or missing) relationship with our dad (we never really learning how to be a guy), and we were bombarded with girl power (nothing wrong with that) ideas and the wussification (a new word!) of men through the 70's and 80's. Thus, wimpy nice guys who want to please women since that's what 'good boys' did to please their mothers.
Now, I am NOT suggesting that there's anything wrong with the female side of raising kids. Nor am I blaming women AT ALL. But for a male child of the 70's and 80's to not also experience positive male role models can absolutely contribute to Nice Guyisms.
Oh, and what do women want? (My $0.02 and what I've seen first hand)
A good man with an edge.
A man who's honest, ethical, upstanding, communicative and loving, but who still has guy qualities like strength, perseverance, courage, goals, advancement and achievement. Guys who may be the first set but who also sit on the couch all day long and never actually implement anything? Not attractive.
At least that's what I've experienced in my dating life.
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