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Selmanito · 04-06-2008, 11:14 PM

Been getting closer with this girl who was just a family friend but then after months of messeging eachother (facebook) when i moved back to ENgland, we met up, and flirting increased by a 10000000% like i have never before witnessed.

I ask her if she has a bf, and if shes interested (i ask just in a flirty way, because i assumed we were together by the situation). She tells me shes not ready for anyone and guys have messed around with her too much. And then says sorry.

Ive been through hell before many times, and i thought i was much tougher after lots of self development tactics and my confidence boost and everything, i was full of gratitude for life and everything.

RIght now im broken completly. In shock at the types of girls that can exist... And thinking what i done wrong? Im confused what i miss?

My question is, how does one handle this? I mean the gratitude feeling Steve talks about in his article for Gratitude, for enjoying the graphics of life even if your losing, just happy to be alive and stuff. I cant get myself to do that and its affecting everyone around me (parents), it just happened yesterday and i still feel that empty chested feeling..and its not stopping.

04-06-2008, 11:14 PM	#1 (permalink)
Selmanito Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 30	Flirting but was all a lie?? How is one supposed to feel? Been getting closer with this girl who was just a family friend but then after months of messeging eachother (facebook) when i moved back to ENgland, we met up, and flirting increased by a 10000000% like i have never before witnessed. I ask her if she has a bf, and if shes interested (i ask just in a flirty way, because i assumed we were together by the situation). She tells me shes not ready for anyone and guys have messed around with her too much. And then says sorry. Ive been through hell before many times, and i thought i was much tougher after lots of self development tactics and my confidence boost and everything, i was full of gratitude for life and everything. RIght now im broken completly. In shock at the types of girls that can exist... And thinking what i done wrong? Im confused what i miss? My question is, how does one handle this? I mean the gratitude feeling Steve talks about in his article for Gratitude, for enjoying the graphics of life even if your losing, just happy to be alive and stuff. I cant get myself to do that and its affecting everyone around me (parents), it just happened yesterday and i still feel that empty chested feeling..and its not stopping.