It sounds to me like it could be your focus on getting it out all right is the most likely thing to be holding you back getting it right. Communication isn't a perfect science. About the only definite is that doubts get in the way. The solution is to focus your efforts on what you intend to do, don't let your thoughts get sidetracked by what might go wrong, because they is what makes things go wrong. Don't get sidetracked by concerns about getting it right or wrong, and definitely don't spend a moment hung up on the other persons reaction. Just focus on your intention. As far as I'm concerned, for example, as long as whay I'm writing feels positive to me, I don't really have to worry or think about whether you're understanding me. As long the feeling is right on my side, then the feeling is right.The more I worry about trying to second guess whether you understand me or not the worse and more jumbled I will become. To be honest I've often thought about the possibility that there's nobody there at the end of these communications. Imagine, a computer that just generated conversational English just to attract attention to businesses? Paranoid huh? Exactly. I don't care what at the end of the line. I don't expect to get everything right first time either. It would save time but I have seen that more time is wasted fussing over dotting every I and crossing every T. Just get the basics out there and if the message is fuzzy and warped when it arrives, there's always chance to clarify. I don't honestly think there's anything encoded in words that is worth taking so seriously to worry about it anyway. For me it's more like a ball game.
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