Cool.
My first marriage was a reflection of my own dysfunctions. Even my dyfunction to blame my partner indirectly for my own dysfunctions.
So I needed him to reflect my better self and when he didn't it was obviously
his fault. Not that he didn't have his own. Divorce was inevitable.
But somewhere between him and my current husband, thank God, I had similar growth and epiphanies to yours.
My husband golfs and would golf everyday if I didn't tell him not to. Bowls, hangs out with friends. Plays poker. My friends are his friends. His friends are my friends. We do a ton together as well.
But my alone time when he is playing manly games is so important to me I actually get mad if he doesn't do that stuff. He laughs about me trying to get rid of him.
Jennifer