My only advice to help you out on this is to perhaps do techniques/excercises to increase your consciousness/awareness of yourself when you are out and about talking to people. The easiest thing to start with would be the body langauge. Become aware when in a conversation with someone where your arms, hands, etc are. what are they doing, etc? And if you catch yourself doing something you know you shouldn't change and/or stop the action. This is an important place to start as body langauge sometimes says more about you than your words.
As for talking, have you thought about public speaking classes? I think you could find those courses in any city.
Hope that gives you some ideas of help.
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