[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Silent Lucidity

Wow... that is a tough one.... and here I thought being 29, suddenly 'forced' to live back at home, at my folks retirement place, in a small hick town, with a minor vision impairment was bad. lol. There are always reasons. The thing is if you enjoy the process then you can enjoy it.

Well i didn't mean to make anyone think i had it bad,i was just explaining why i feel trapped in my life. Everyone has roadblocks. But i think age is the biggest one. To anyone who is still in their teens or twenties,i could literally say almost anything is possible. But to have such a lofty goal as mine,and to be 35 when you realize it,to anyone else in my situation i would say 'whoa,think its a little too late,sorry'

What does being in a rock band mean to you? How to you envision it? From what I know of the music industry (not much) you practice a lot, spend a lot of time alone, composing, practicing, and then great periods of time touring, getting exhausted, having fans pester you, etc. Even if you do make it big than you can't go out anymore without wearing the dark glasses.

I don't want to be that famous. I just want it to be my job. I want to be able to get up every day,with my bandmates,and practice,write new songs,get involved in the recording process,tour the country and play music. When i go to a concert,i feel something i can't explain,its like this is the center of the universe. Nothing else matters. I have never been on stage playing with a band so i can only imagine that but from what they tell me about it,it gives me chills,and i dont want to leave this world without knowing how that feels. Just to be part of the whole music scene,not just being an observer,thats what i want.

So is it the rock band you want? Being on stage? Or is it the music? is it the process? The result?

This is the part i'm still unsure of,i mean yeah i do want to be in a band on stage but then i think there are a ton of other positions i would like to do too,like working in the studio,being a roadie,anything really,i want to try it all!

The first thing I'd say is pick an instrument which you love the sound of so much, that doing scales on it every day for hours is pure bliss.

Well i have a piano but i can only play it softly and only during certain hours and i hate that other people can hear me. Thats another hurdle i forgot to mention,i have a huge problem with playing for people. I have tried to play a few things for my family and friends on my piano,but i get so flustered i cant get through a few notes without making a mistake. When i took singing lessons,i could tell right away this wasn't going to work. I cant sing in front of someone like that. I have done karaoke before,but usually after a few drinks and usually with someone else

You have to be a beginner before you can be an expert. Yeah, I keep telling myself this stuff too.

This is exactly why i feel like it's too late. I am still a beginner at 35!! By the time i'm an expert,i will be in my 40's. Even American Idol doesn't let you audition unless you are 29 or under,i think. Young and beautiful gets you noticed in this business.

You can also practice singing quietly, during daylight hours.. you don't have to practice loud, in fact for voice strengthening and range building, you're not supposed to be loud as that strains your voice.

I do sing quietly,but my voice breaks up when i do that. I need to sing loud and strong in order to sound good,in order to strengthen my voice. You can't grow as a singer if you can only sing softly like you're just breathing the sound out,you have to pierce the air from the depth of your lungs!

As far as the 'body image' thing goes, there was a guy at the yoga studio I used to attend, I thought he was about 27. It turns out he was 50. No I don't own a studio, but this hot yoga stuff works. If you are in a small town, get the video, and steam the bathroom and do the yoga in there. It just depends how bad you want it, if you figure out ways to solve the problems... slowly... with determination... one at a time...

I didnt mean my body image,i just meant my image like my looks. My style/persona whatever you call it...the thing that attracts people to you.

I am curious how you came to the realization of the rock band, as I have a similar situation. How did you know, what made the lightening-bolt hit?

Well,i've always loved music,since i was a kid...but i just figured it was something to enjoy,not something to LIVE. But i wasn't quite happy with that. I felt like i never fit in with most people because i knew i WAS music and nobody else was. By that i mean,other people just like music,but to me,it just makes up so much of me,that it's necessary for me to be talking about it or listening to it in order to be happy. Even when i am forced to do something completely unrelated i try to find a way to incorporate music into it. And also I can be sitting with a bunch of people and they're all talking about food,the weather,the news,their lives,and i couldn't give a @$%& but the minute they start talking about music,i'm a different person and i actually want to talk to them. I dont even want to date a guy that isn't a musician or REALLY REALLY into it. So anyway,that's how my whole life has been,just kinda drifting along loving music but not realizing i should be doing it...(i was in love with this guy for 12 years and that held me down and distracted me),well after i found out he was gay,that threw me for a loop and i turned to music even more...i got into this band called Switchfoot and they're really inspirational,well,they helped me realize that i should be doing what i love,i am not the person i want to be and i need to change that. Thats when i bought a piano and took lessons and worked on my singing. But i still couldn't find my way out of my rut as far as my job and my family and my location. Then i had to stop my lessons because of my hours at work and lack of money. Which brings me to a few weeks ago,i was on a message board online and somebody posted a topic about dating musicians. They went on about being supportive of their music,the pluses of being in music yourself so its easier to date other musicians,the whole traveling life,it just hit me then and i realized i had tears in my eyes because that is what i want to do,and i felt sad at the same time because i dont know if i'll ever get that. So yeah,that is my story about how i know this was meant for me. Hope i didnt lose anyone there,i got a bit long winded LOL
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