My boyfriend and I have never sat down together and written a formal mission or vision statement, but we certainly have spent a lot of time discussing what's important to us. We both come from first marriages that failed and we have both learned an awful lot about how to go into a relationship with our eyes open.
Things that are important to us include:
providing support and comfort during times of stress
laughing together (a lot!)
allowing each other to have the time and space to pursue things of interest with out having to worry about the other person being jealous or controlling
being affectionate (also, a lot!)
open communication
having a really fabulous sex life
creating a relationship that allows for safety and security
All of those above items really tie into each other. If it weren't for the mutual trust, space and affection, for example, there wouldn't be the space for the intimacy that helps us to create the fabulous sex life.
I'm not sure, though, that I would want to formalize this list into something concrete. I like that we are getting pretty good at communicating our needs so that are shared vision is constantly evolving.
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