Hey man. Last relationship I had, I was in the exact same situ. Too much worrying, too much fretting... I realized that I too would make excuses so that there would be no other guys present. She was a looker for sure, and a big flirt on top of that.
It took me a LONG time after we broke up for me to realize something - I thought I owned her, and I never wanted to share her. I'm only 18 so I haven't had any relationships yet where the underlying tone wasn't "OWNERSHIP". That's just how relationships were with the girls I've dated so far, and I look forward to a more mature relationship, from both her and me.
The fact is, I don't own anyone and no one owns me.
Another thing I realized was the pure ADDICTION I had to this girl. I just recently saw her for the first time in a few months and all the old feelings came RUSHING BACK. There's no reason for it except that she was like a DRUG and that I was ADDICTED.
The best advice I can give is to find your identity and happiness from yourself. Try your best to get out of the ownership mindset, or to stay out of it if you currently aren't in it. And realize that this girl is probably just as awesome as you think she is, but that she is not the only one.
Best of luck man.
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