The female equivalent of that FastSeduction stuff is "The Rules".
I'm a follower of Dr. Tracy... her site is
Love Advice from Dr. Tracy Cabot.
The whole problem is overgiving - whether it's men or women doing the overgiving, whether the relationships are heterosexual or homosexual.
Don't give so much in the beginning that your intended doesn't have room to fantasize about you. Don't push togetherness too much, let the other person actually have a chance to reciprocate... Flowers are good, compliments are good, but don't bury the person... it should be common sense...