I'm a bit ashamed to admit it, but when I was small/teenager I usually accepted what others said, and if I remember well, I actually believed them, probably only to maintain the relationship.
If someone told me "You're saying this only because you don't want to admit that...", I usually accepted that version and actually believed that they were right.
Yes, now I'm realizing that I also have an opinion and that for many times I've just let my own views go to the background. So many times I've tried to say something with an intention, but others try to read in something else.
I don't get defensive, but I feel a bit offended/sad that others don't listen to what I really mean and I think I'm helpless since they're better at communicating and arguing.
Yes, that's exactly what happens.
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