I’m in the midst of reading her first book after completing "I need your love - is that true?".
Im finding it very inspiring and really helping me let go of alot of frustration Ive had in relationships including with romantic partners, family members, reckless drivers in traffic etc...
First of all Byron Katie divorced her husband after she started doing the work, (a few years later she remarried), so obviously she doesn’t think you should stay in a bad relationship.
But she points out that resisting reality is something that only brings suffering.
A thought like "He shouldn’t be so aggressive"- leaves you feeling insecure, lonely, and helpless. If you stop resisting the reality that he is aggresive you can then:
A) See maybe how your resistance may have contributed and made the situation worse (also because he is mirroring your own aggressiveness you have as a result of this thought)
B) Accept things as they are and with this clarity decide what you want to do (he is still aggressive even though I’m feeling peaceful and this make me feel bad so I’m leaving to be wth someone more peaceful).
Thats how I see her philosophy, and it makes a lot of sense to me.
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