Personal Development for Smart People Forums - View Single Post

evacorges · 04-02-2008, 08:13 AM

The last years I have been discovering who I am, what I like, and what I want to do with my life. (as opposed to living the life I thought people expected me to live)

This has now culminated in my training for a job I really love, that gives me energy, that is good for me and the people I am working with. Training for this job involves 100 practice sessions before I can take the licencing exam.
I feel so great after the practice sessions! I feel whole and I love life, and me, and other people.

But.
It seems to be having a negative vibe to my relationship with my husband. I know we have grown apart some, he doesn't understand my need to do work that gives me joy, but now I don't seem to find him attractive any more.
It is as though our relationship seemed good when life was somber and difficult for me. Now I am enjoying life more, is seems to put my relationship in a different light and I catch myself thinking that I would not choose this partner if I had to make a choice today.

My question to the forum is - is this a normal phase to pass through? Is there hope that with work we can overcome this?

04-02-2008, 08:13 AM	#1 (permalink)
evacorges Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 95	is this a normal part of change? The last years I have been discovering who I am, what I like, and what I want to do with my life. (as opposed to living the life I thought people expected me to live) This has now culminated in my training for a job I really love, that gives me energy, that is good for me and the people I am working with. Training for this job involves 100 practice sessions before I can take the licencing exam. I feel so great after the practice sessions! I feel whole and I love life, and me, and other people. But. It seems to be having a negative vibe to my relationship with my husband. I know we have grown apart some, he doesn't understand my need to do work that gives me joy, but now I don't seem to find him attractive any more. It is as though our relationship seemed good when life was somber and difficult for me. Now I am enjoying life more, is seems to put my relationship in a different light and I catch myself thinking that I would not choose this partner if I had to make a choice today. My question to the forum is - is this a normal phase to pass through? Is there hope that with work we can overcome this?