Intended clearly, positively, strongly and consistently by the other person, yes I believe that you would end up talking with them.
With respect to stopping a war, this seems to be somewhat of an academic and/or abstract question for you. Instead of worrying about that, I would recommend creating a reality that includes some small beneficial habit or event for yourself personally first. Small steps...
Stephen
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