Hey angelwings, let me tell you something that has happenned to me.
A while ago, in high school, i wanted to attract a girl that I really liked. But I knew that I couldn't do it with my personality, atleast not completely. So I decided to partially change it, tried to interest myself in what she liked etc etc etc. Eventually, after months of hard work, luck and because of my strong intuition I finally got out with her and I was really proud of myself at first. But one of the things that I immediately realised was how HARD it is to maintain a fake personality (even if you'r faking just some aspects of it). But I wasn't going to give up so I maintained it. After just a few months I found myself compltely depleted of energy, depressed and very anxious. So we eventually broke up.
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The problem with changing who you are to play a role is that the role takes more and more energy to play and then you eventually can't sustain it anymore.
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Absolutely true.
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I'm observing the traits/characters of the popular people in college.
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In my opinion, you should be observing the people who have a successfull relationship instead! Beeing popular has it's good side, but personally, as a guy, I really wouldn't like to go out with a girl and to find out that every1 knows about it the next day. Besides, sincerely, from what i'v seen in my short lifespan, I think that some of the traits that often make people ''popular'' do not benefit you at all.
As to answer your question:
There isn't a single type of girl that guys feel attracted to. I think any man in this forum can agree with this sentence. But there are some common traits that guys are usually looking for.
A healthy phisical appearance is probably the most important of them. You wouldn't feel attracted to an anorexic man that never washes himself would you? It's the same thing for men. One of the things we seek in girls is not the ''sexy'' but the ''healthy''. So that being said, the fact that you are trying to lose weight is GREAT.
Another important thing is intellect, I personally find it to be a BIG turn-off when I see a sexy girl and I find out that she is stupid.
The last one would probably be genuineness, this is utterly important. Usually relationship that envolve people who are not 100% genuine in their feelings and thoughts will not last long.
As for the other traits, it depends on the person you are asking. Any man on this forum has different things he likes in how a girl dresses (personally I prefer punks to barbie dolls), how a girl acts, what she does and the things she is interested in.