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I think carenkh is right (she is pretty good about that).

I don't get the impression at all that the work advocates staying in a relationship you don't want to stay in. She says that the difference is leaving with hate and blame or leaving with love. I think she wants for people to, in any case, question their thoughts about what love is or what it "should" provide. Many people may find that the reason they thought they were going to leave doesn't stand up to inquiry. There are some people who were able to find that even though their spouse was unfaithful and left them, they still love them. It doesn't mean they want to get back together either. They just stop torturing themselves with the thoughts like: "he should be with me" or "he shouldn't desert his family." Those types of thoughts hurt the thinker.

I wish I could explain better. Maybe that helps?

But I would definitely give it another read without the thought that she's advocating any certain decision...I think she even says the Work doesn't advocate anything it's just 4 questions and a turnaround. The goal is to get people free of oppressive thoughts.