The problem with changing who you are to play a role is that the role takes more and more energy to play and then you eventually can't sustain it anymore. It takes too much effort.
If you want to have guys falling in love with you constantly, you could sort of take a statistical approach, find exactly what traits most guys love, and then put a lot of work into displaying those traits.
This will certainly work - guys will fall in love with you while you display these traits.
But the problem is that it takes so much energy to do this that eventually you won't be able to keep it up long-term.
This is why I personally don't try to do that anymore.
But anyway if you are still want to play a role, it definitely starts with physical appearance. Remember the 80/20 rule - 20% of the effort gets 80% of the result. You'll want to ensure you're putting in the 20% effort to get 80% of the result, and then move on to the next category. This will be the most effective use of your energy.
So make sure you're getting the 80% from physical attractiveness first and then work on getting the 80% from personality. If you obsess with one thing over the other you won't get the results you could be getting.
Ultimately though, if you ask me, you're doomed to eventually realize that it wasn't worth the effort and you won't find satisfaction from achieving popularity. Your true satisfaction will be found through some other avenue.  |