Angelwings, I think part of what might be getting in your way is that you are approaching things from a perspective of what you can *get* like: desirability, validation, love, romance, sex,... whatever it is for you, what you're focusing on is all for you.
I think we tend to be attracted to people who are less concerned about *getting* something out of someone, and more towards people who are just spontaneously generating wonderful things, for themselves, for others, and for the world. Generators are just way more fun to be with than Getters.
I'm not talking about giving yourself away, or being inauthentic -- I'm talking about you boldly looking at what would make a difference for YOU in living a life you love: what is it? courage? suppleness? directness? love? joy? freedom? What would inspire YOU if you were generating it, and would have you really feeling good regardless of what others do or think? Being the source of what you want -- that's what will have the perfect men orbiting you.
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