1) A response to Erin:
I understand that this is what you want - and when I read what you wrote it really spoke to me. So, when I read what Byron had to say, I noticed that it's yet another red flag.
2) A response to vapourmile:
I think that happiness is indeed our own doing and responsibility. In a relationship, the other person is definitely not responsible for my happiness. Moreover, coming into a relationship already happy and whole (so, realizing all these things) makes it that much better.
Something that my friend said a while ago that made sense: a relationship should enhance your life. (I can see how this can be shut down, but the essence of it is that relationships should be free flowing and easy and joyful, at least most of the time). This sentence was in response to how it seems that relationships go sour and people just go on and suffer through them, and for what?
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