[maxdof]

Originally Posted by GreenLife

I agree with you, maxdof, but there is one very important point - the need to be understood. "Being proactive means taking responsibility for every aspect of your life" - it is true of course, but creating the layer of the power of free will "between stimulus and response" we feel the need to be understood, otherwise the feel of loneliness begin to press us. Thus we need one power to protect minds from others and another power to protect from the feel of loneliness. What do you think?

Hey Greenlife, I tried to answer your question by another question, but it didn't work

I think 2 things:

• being proactive, when applied to the most, makes you independent from your environment, which cannot touch you in any way.
• of course i can talk about the same book, habit 5, "Seek first to understand, then to be understood" where it is told that the most powerful way to influence people, be understood, is to give them the feeling that you understand them. It seems that in your case, it might not be enough, so I would advise you to
  • either change your environment, by being proactive, for exemple, those people might be reactive and they will begin to understand you only when they will become proactive, when you will make them become proactive,
  • or to change of environment..