Since I myself have taken a giant leap back (my ex and I have "gotten back together") I'd like to give you my take on this.
You have said that you don't want to go back to him, that you feel there is someone else for you and that you don't get on well. Answer is right there. I know that it sucks, but I think you've done a good thing by telling him you would like to cut off contact. He's the familiar, regardless of how good that comfort zone actually was or was not. It will be very easy to confuse yourself into seeing him more, getting physical or even getting back together. And it's really clear you don't think that's best. So, just don't contact him at all. You've asked him already to break contact, so just hold him to that. I think it takes more time than we like to believe to get over a relationship of any length and intimacy. I think you just need time.
That all sounds kind of strict considering the choice I've made. I think in my case I don't have the certainty you do that we are better off apart. Just from what I've seen you post around here, you know it's best to move on. The only way I think you can do that effectively is to have a period of no contact at least for a time. After a few months you may be able to talk as friends...do you even want to be friends with this guy? That question might tell you a lot as well.
I know it is really, really hard. I don't know if I've made the right decision either. Yet if your intuition is telling you not to call, don't!
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