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Originally Posted by Angelwings  at this stage, i m so desparate i m about to take off with anyone that want to take me. I ve been single all my life. |
Angelwings, I totally sympathize with you as I felt pretty desperate myself in the past, but being with "just anyone" can be more miserable than being by yourself. (Honest!)
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Originally Posted by Angelwings Everyone loves BARBIE, she cant go wrong. She's a good example of d kind of traits people like- its so universal! |
No, not EVERYONE loves Barbie! The "Barbie look" can be attractive, but it is NOT my first choice. Also, Eva Longoria --- personally, she leaves me cold. (Not that my opinion on attractiveness is what matters to you -- it's just an example.)
You talk about wanting to be "the girl all the guys kill for," but how about focusing on being the girl who finds the right guy for her, rather than a Hollywood fantasy, at least for step one!
You talk about changing your personality, but maybe you just need to change your presentation.
You have a great point when you write that you want to understand how others see you. Take a public speaking course (where your presentations are videotaped), take an acting class, or join Toastmasters -- something where you can get immediate feedback on how you are presenting yourself. You can even go out with a trusted friend who can give you feedback on your interactions with others.
Once you have an idea how you are coming across, then you can decide what you want to work on. Until you have accurate feedback, it will be more difficult to make effective changes to your presentation.