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Originally Posted by Dating Specialist  Now that you've got your own defintion of what a soul mate is, may I also ask the next question:
What needs to happen or be present before you can feel connected with your partner? |
I do feel connected to my partner. It is just not a connection in the way I understand "soul mate."
Is my dilemma a labeling problem, an expectation problem, or is it really a problem created in order to experience problems? I have so many questions!
What I know is:
I spend time with my partner and we both work at nourishing our relationship and building on the love that we have for each other.
I am committed to the relationship and I believe she is also committed to the relationship.
We talk to each other about important stuff and are intimate emotionally and intellectually as well as physically.
This is the most functional romantic relationship I have had in my life. By functional I mean that I know where the boundaries are and do not mistake myself for her or her for myself emotionally or otherwise.
I have had some spectacularly dysfunctional relationships and this is new territory for me.
So rather than put a lot of expectations on my Life with Mai (my partner) I believe I will accept the "what is" of this moment. This moment is nice.
Thanks for listening to a pilgrim on the journey!
Gene