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Originally Posted by jamestl2  Which is something I agree with, and I suppose I asked the question from both genders' perspectives, as in "Can Women really Trust Men?" too. |
I have come to learn that it is really about trusting myself. I do not mean trusting myself not to betray another, but do I trust that I will survive, on an emotional level, if someone betrays me. Of course I will. Will it hurt? Absolutely, but will I get through it? ABSOLUTELY.
James, when you hand your power over to another then you are giving them the power to hurt you. You are making them responsible for your happiness and unhappiness. You can choose to avoid that hurt, at all costs, and miss out on the gift of love and intimacy or let go of your fear of getting hurt.
Not trusting, whether it be women or yourself, is really setting yourself up for a lonely miserable life. Why do that to yourself?