That's a good question, why do you keep taking him back? I don't think anybody here can tell you, unless they have a very similar personal experience. But it seems to me that you are the one that could answer that question without our help, being that you are the one originating the behavior.
So my recommendation, along with what Angela has proposed, is to really look at the reasons you take him back, and ask yourself why those reasons are worth taking him back for. Don't ask yourself why you do the things you do, ask yourself why you feel the ways you feel or believe the ways you believe. For example, asking yourself why you love him is a rabbit-hole of a question, it's very difficult to answer and probably is a combination of factors. But ask yourself;
Why do I keep taking him back?
Because I love him.
Why is that important enough to make me take him back?
Because I'm afraid that I'll lose him and his love for me.
Why am I afraid?
Because I don't want to be alone.
Why do I feel lonely?
This is just hypothetical, it's doubtful that it will actually happen like that. But notice how the questions are about feelings, desires, and beliefs, rather than actions. If you do some soul-searching, you'll find your answer.
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