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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  I am not assuming they are lies,i KNOW they are. Thats why i explained my situation because i am not just assuming. |
Well then as dancer said, why do you have a desire to be around people who you know lie to you? What is their good (or bad) opinion really worth?
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Originally Posted by Rockchick26 Yeah,i know LOL Its just hard for me cuz i have this overwhelming need to understand and to know the truth. That applies to everything in life. |
Believe me, I am the same way. I am not saying it's wrong of you or even that it's easy to change only that the constant nagging desire to know everything about everything will eat you up. I am finding that there are nicer ways to spend my time and I feel much more free when I let go of that. I only say it because I am actually like you in this way and it has brought me nothing but pain. Are you willing to try another way?
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Originally Posted by Rockchick26 That sounds good,but it doesnt feel good when it happens LOL If someone is meant to leave your life,why would it feel bad? I mean,i know the whole thing about withdrawal/grieving,but i mean,i've had friends leave my life before that didnt even phase me,but when they DO phase me,that tells me that it's something worth fighting for,it tells me that there is a reason i still need them in my life. |
If you really need someone in your life, they will be in your life.
Thinking that you need them in your life doesn't change that.
It feels bad when breakups happen. It feels bad when we lose friends. But right now you are just thinking about how horrible it is and how you must figure it out and get them back. Have you stopped at all to think that maybe your life would actually be better without them in it? People who lie to you, delete your messages behind your back and blow you off? What in you makes you think you need that kind of person in your life? These are just questions that I would ask myself.