[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}

What would happen if you just accepted their answer instead of assuming it to be a lie or a made up excuse? Here I go again with the Byron Katie stuff, but really the person you are talking about may not even know the real reason themselves. And even if they tell you the real reason you might not believe them anyway since you know that "nobody is honest anymore."

I am not assuming they are lies,i KNOW they are. Thats why i explained my situation because i am not just assuming.

My advice here is the same as for pretty much everything else (and it's for me more than you even ): stop trying to figure it all out, accept, surrender and go about living a life you love.

Yeah,i know LOL Its just hard for me cuz i have this overwhelming need to understand and to know the truth. That applies to everything in life.

How do you know when you need someone in your life? When they are there. How do you know when you don't need someone in your life? They are gone.

That sounds good,but it doesnt feel good when it happens LOL If someone is meant to leave your life,why would it feel bad? I mean,i know the whole thing about withdrawal/grieving,but i mean,i've had friends leave my life before that didnt even phase me,but when they DO phase me,that tells me that it's something worth fighting for,it tells me that there is a reason i still need them in my life.

It's as simple as that and doesn't mean anything about you. Sure there may be some things you can do to have better friendships, but like Angela said, people are showing you these things all the time. We are all mirrors reflecting stuff back to you. You just have to look at it. It's much easier to do that when you aren't making meaning out of thin air or guessing at what the other person is thinking or feeling.[/quote]