I think there is a scale of compatibility, you might be highly compatible with some people and not very compatible with others. The key is to find someone you are compatible enough with to care deeply about each other and want to share your lives with each other.
If you're not compatible enough with your current partner, find someone you fit better with. If you feel the need for a deeper connection, chances are the compatibility is too low.
I can't possibly imagine that there is just one person who is perfect for each of us, that's a crazy assumption.
I think the question of a soul mate depends on what you mean by soul mate. I don't think I have a deep spiritual connection with my husband, but I don't think I have one with anyone else either. I am, however, sure that I want to share my life with him.
I disagree with the person above who said effort is important. A good relationship is easy and natural. My marriage takes no effort at all. Of course sometimes we don't see eye to eye, but it's not about agreeing all the time. It's about trust, honesty, and caring about each other. I care about my husband so much that making him happy comes easily to me. I always tell him the truth as I see it, and I believe without doubt that he feels the same way about me.
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