[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by wolfgang

Then your inner state is trying to make that kind of future - duh.

Well,if my inner state is trying to make this happen,is that the same thing as my unconscious wanting it too? It was just wierd cuz i asked to see my future and i saw those 2 flashes of me and him,not something i created but more like it was shown to me from an outer source. I know what it feels like to imagine or fantasize and these were not like that at all. Just thought it was strange cuz that's never happened to me.

Knowing is overrated. It doesn't help to know.

Well to me,knowing is a form of closure. If i KNEW this was simply my ego's obsession,i could enjoy it for what it's worth. But if i KNEW this was meant to be,i would relax knowing the universe will take care of it and bring it to me in due time.

It's not really a matter of if you know him or not, then. It's a matter of available or not. He lives somewhere else. It's hard to hang out with him. Those are strong "signs" or realism.

But that doesnt mean he's unavailable. Lots of people meet someone from other states. My uncle married a woman who lived 1000 miles away and moved there to be with her. It isnt impossible.

You may have a habit of chasing guys that are not available or wishing for something that is difficult.

The only reason i seem to chase unavailable guys is because i have high standards and those types of guys have always been out of my league. But i dont feel that way anymore.

It takes a lot to align our ego thoughts with total being. Our ego thinking is a tip of the ice berg and doesn't amount to much in terms of what the universe will show you back, when we aren't aligned with subconscious habits. This is why the universe might show us something other than what our conscious mind thinks - our habitual unconscious parts are usually getting in the way. Of coarse you want something with your conscious mind. That is ego. Ego is weak, not very powerful for bringing about desires. Total being on the other hand is something else - and doesn't want or strive, but rather accepts and allows. This whole LoA and IM stuff is about allowing and accepting. I don't think it's about us telling the universe what we want but being able to realize what the universe wants for us.

This paragraph helped me understand much better!! Now i realize this is probably an act of ego. I WANT him. i DESIRE him (desire in the wrong way). I guess i can tell the difference now. But i still feel real love inside me when i think of him,and i dont feel that when i think of other guys. But still,i guess this is all an ego thing and thats why this isnt a good thing to be trying to manifest. I wish it was easier to find out what your unconscious wants. Even my dreams tell me i want him,so i dont know any other way to get to the deeper levels of what my soul wants. I guess that kinda defeats the purpose though,doesnt it? lol We're supposed to just let it happen,not find something to want.

If you like banging your head against the wall, the universe will give you walls.

I do feel like i'm banging my head against a wall,but i DONT ENJOY IT! But,i guess thats a downside to the LoA...the universe gives you what you are experiencing. So i have to basically try to pretend nothing is bothering me. But i suppose then it'll still know that deep down it still is LOL AGGH! i just cant win LOL It's like a ruthless warrior...anytime i see a chance to come out ahead,it beats me down again

Signs that a guy is "supposed to be with you" is more like showing you how you attached to this image of that. Along with some other stuff that is probably unconscious that has made this "soulmate" show up as unavailable.

Well isnt everyone (not these forum members) but the general public,aren't they all attached to an image of something they want? Everyone i know has a type of person they want to be with. My mom likes cowboys. One of my friends likes black guys (she's white),one of my other friends likes shy depressed guys. And i like musicians. I dont see how this is a bad thing to be attached to an image of what you want.