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Originally Posted by 3nigma  I don't see why I should confront him. I didn't begin the conversation and argument, nor did I "thinkingly" wish to have it in the first place. If I ignore the hell out of him, I'm sure he'll get the same message, that I didn't appreciate him and he created his own isolation. Besides, words won't do anything. He's an extremely arrogant and stubborn man, and has a "My way or the highway" thinking about him. I yelled at him when we were having the argument, isn't that talking about it? I threw my point out there, with a little bit of anger as well.  |
I didn't say you *should* confront him.
You said this pattern in your relationship feels like a trap. You may not have started it, but you are engaging in it, and as long as you engage in the same way,
you are creating the relationship in the same way. If you would like to free yourself from the trap, you can break the pattern and try something new, for instance, having a conversation with him and looking for a third alternative that has you both satisfied, fulfilled, and loving in the relationship. (there are plenty of other things you can do to break the pattern; that's just the one I think I'd probably employ.)
If you're
not interested in having you both be satisfied, fulfilled and loving, then by all means, continue on as you are: punishing, yelling, being angry, not seeing how you are mirrors for each other. That's your choice to make! Revel in your freedom!
I usually operate under the default supposition that people here are up to having satisfaction, fulfillment, and love be present in their relationships. I'm sorry to be presumptuous if that is not in accordance with what you want to generate. If it's not, what is?