It doesn't matter if it's a guy or a girl.
If you are willing to tolerate the negativity of this person, or if you are willing to have a "close" relationship in which you avoid him as much as possible (!
), and you're not willing to communicate what's so for you and look for an alternative that leaves you both satisfied and loving, then your first fear applies: you
are creating this situation with your negative thinking. In other words, your complaint has nothing to do with him, and everything to do with you.
You do have the power to tranform the conversation about college, and the relationship as a whole, too.
(p.s., that an apology is
sincere doesn't make it effective.
)