Originally Posted by Rockchick26
Whenever i ask why she's quiet or acting wierd she just says she's tired or is busy doing other stuff. I wouldn't have came on here asking for advice if i knew the real reason,but nobody is honest anymore,they lie or make up excuses all the time!
What would happen if you just accepted their answer instead of assuming it to be a lie or a made up excuse? Here I go again with the Byron Katie stuff, but really the person you are talking about may not even know the real reason themselves. And even if they tell you the real reason you might not believe them anyway since you know that "nobody is honest anymore."
My advice here is the same as for pretty much everything else (and it's for me more than you even
): stop trying to figure it all out, accept, surrender and go about living a life you love.
How do you know when you need someone in your life? When they are there. How do you know when you don't need someone in your life? They are gone.
It's as simple as that and doesn't mean anything about you. Sure there may be some things you can do to have better friendships, but like Angela said, people are showing you these things all the time. We are all mirrors reflecting stuff back to you. You just have to look at it. It's much easier to do that when you aren't making meaning out of thin air or guessing at what the other person
is thinking or feeling.