Originally Posted by Rockchick26
But this is what i've been doing,forever! Not even just with this guy,but EVERY guy i've ever liked! Since i've rarely ever physically HAD someone,i've been forced to just "share my love with them without having them physically". Basically that just means loving them from afar,only completing half the circle of love. How is this good enough? How can you truly love someone if you are the only one doing the loving,and it's all in your fantasies,not real life?
I'm just wondering, Rockchick, have you thought about looking at your core beliefs about relationships? It sounds as though you've been through this "loving from afar" situation a fair few times, and there might be useful things you could learn about what you think deep down, subconsciously, about how relationships work, how lovable you are, and whether you can have the man of your dreams.
In my experience, I notice that when I wholeheartedly know
something to be true, it's easy for it to happen and unfold in exactly the way I want. All my core beliefs and ideals are aligned to it, and I don't for a second need or notice outward signs of it happening according to what I want. Plop, there it is in my lap. On the other hand, when I want something but I seriously doubt, subconsciously or consciously, that I can have it or deserve it or if it's possible, then I need to look outside myself. That's when signs come in, and they can reflect any interpretation I choose to put upon them. They don't actually help other than to demonstrate that I'm really not in tune with what I want or know deep down that I can have it. All signs therefore mean "Go to work on yourself."
I would suggest, therefore, that maybe you should look into what you think about yourself deep down, what you think about whether or not you can have a truly fabulous relationship with a guy you really want. Building that relationship with yourself, a truly deep and loving relationship, will make you shine in a way you could have any man you want.