OH MY GOSH, you totally need to read "Why Men Love Bitches" by some chick i cant think of right now. ANYWAY, it completely validated my entire existence as a woman. i aint no doormat, but i got caught up in the problem of wanting to be perfect for this guy i was best friends with and was with for 4 years. then it came down to my career or him. LOL, as if. it totally broke my heart into a million little pieces to feel like i had been wasting my time. i kind of should have known all along though, and i think this book shows women the tricks of the "trade" (of relationships) and how not to be walked all over and taken advantage of by skeevy dudes just looking for sex.
oh, and as a bonus, it turns out that men fall in love with girls who DONT let them take advantage (aka bitches).
...or you could just read steve pavlina's blogs and become the ultra super version of yourself who doesn't NEED anyone.
either way, just don't be a goober and think crappy thoughts like that. not even if it feels all good and squishy at the time. be confident in your self and your own being and don't rely on ANYONE to make you happy but YOURSELF. (seriously, its a mistake. you'll find out)