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Originally Posted by dancer  James,
Is it possible you are still hanging on to the pain left over from your last relationship? In my last relationship, I was cheated on and lied to. At the end of it, I swore off relationships, forever. I decided to do some work on myself, it has been a real learning experience. I dropped my victim way of living and much more. |
It wasn't a relationship, it was basically a woman who I truly believed was interested in me (first time ever), turned out to not be attracted in the slightest sense (look at the how to fall....thread a little earlier back for everything).
When I start telling myself things like "She's actually going to be my first girlfriend " or "Wow, this attractive woman is actually talking to and taking an interest in me", then absolutley nothing about it happens. It's like I don't want to risk feeling any sort of pain like that again.
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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity} If you really begin to question your beliefs about love and what other people should and shouldn't do with regards to it you will begin to feel and see a transformation. Really look at what Angela and eveyone else is saying. I've been learning this lesson with one of the greatest teachers of all time: my ex! I believed so many things about him and our relationship that simply melt away when looked at through the lens of 100% responsibility, freedom (for me and everyone else to be who we are and who we are not), the belief that eveyone is doing the best they can with what they know and that we are all the same underneath. |
Maybe this is the sort of thing that's happened to me. I believed I learned a lot from her over all that time, and that's what I've come to expect from other women.