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I feel like a broken record here, but James: read I Need Your Love by Byron Katie. Do the Work.

She says something in that book that I think applies here. I don't have it in front of me so I am paraphrasing: What we are is love. You cannot lose love you can only lose the awarness of love. When you meet someone and "fall in love" you think they are providing it to you but really it was in you all along, they've just reflected it to you.

If you really begin to question your beliefs about love and what other people should and shouldn't do with regards to it you will begin to feel and see a transformation. Really look at what Angela and eveyone else is saying. I've been learning this lesson with one of the greatest teachers of all time: my ex! I believed so many things about him and our relationship that simply melt away when looked at through the lens of 100% responsibility, freedom (for me and everyone else to be who we are and who we are not), the belief that eveyone is doing the best they can with what they know and that we are all the same underneath.