James,
Is it possible you are still hanging on to the pain left over from your last relationship? In my last relationship, I was cheated on and lied to. At the end of it, I swore off relationships, forever. I decided to do some work on myself, it has been a real learning experience. I dropped my victim way of living and much more. I'm starting to feel ready to open my heart to another, actually, I'm getting excited about it. I'll be putting out an intention, real soon.
What are the underlying feelings behind you not wanting to trust? Work on them. If you are re-living every minute of the heartache, STOP. Don't deny the feelings, they are valid, but feel them without the story. If you do not know how to stop, read Eckhart Tolle. Make an intention to allow trust within you. And know that you are responsible for what you are feeling. People do stuff, you do stuff, but it is you who chooses how you feel about it all. Taking responsibility for your emotions is a huge step. Study Angela's posts throughout the forums. They helped me when I wasn't even looking to be helped.
Love without trust sucks, so work on you and allow trust back into your life and relationships. Not trusting is the easy way and I guess will leave you like the lonely old guy you mentioned earlier in this thread. Nope, not for me and not for you. Be brave, do the work inside and watch the miracles happen. And don't forget to ask for help from the LOA.
 |