[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by iamstillness

Hello again friend. Well actually, the one you are seeing in dreams and visions is your SoulMate, but I am not talking about the person that your mind has chosen to represent your SoulMate visually.

Your SoulMate is part of you, and can come to you (or be reflected to you) through any person in the world. You seem to have encountered someone in the physical world that you feel a great deal of Love for. What is happening there is that this person is serving as a mirror for your Love. They are showing you something that is inside of yourself, the Love. The Love you feel when you think of or are around this person, is coming from inside of you, not from the other person.

Please do not take this personally, but your ego is attached to the "mirror", which is getting in the way of Love. I have been there too, and it can be hard to shift your perception and release attachments to the impermanent, but once done you will be free to manifest your true SoulMate relationship in the physical world. First by opening your heart to your SoulMate inside of you (no matter what "body" your mind chooses to represent him as) and then eventually drawing into your life a perfect mirror (person) to share the physical SoulMate union with.

Ok after reading all this i'm even more confused LOL So you're saying,what i am feeling in regards to this guy is a soulmate thing,but HE isnt my soulmate,he's just the one that was (for some reason) chosen to mirror this back to me? Then why didnt my real soulmate do that instead? I mean,why go through another person for all this,wouldn't it be much more easier and faster if the universe would just show me the right one the first time?

The ego will never be truly satisfied with any parter you will have. This is because the ego actually will work to sabotage any real Love in a relationship because it fears annihilation.

But since most people follow their ego's wants,why wouldn't this destroy all their relationships then? I know people who are truly satisfied with their partners and they are not enlightened people,theyre just your average normal person who has never heard of all this. I just dont get why it happens for them naturally,but for some of us,we have to work at it...i mean using the ego rule you explained.

If you want to find your SoulMate, look first within yourself. Open your heart and allow the Love to pour from you to them. You must stop looking for Love outside of yourself, for truly every time you have ever felt the feeling of True Love, it came from inside of you, not from any external source.

But i DO feel like i am looking within myself! I know i can love,i feel love inside me,long before i even knew who this guy was! I just want to share it with him,i dont need him to make me love,i already know i don't need someone else to make me love. I still feel like i'm doing this right.

When your heart is open and you are allowing Love to move outwards to your SoulMate (their presence inside you/on the inner planes) then your heart will automatically draw into your life the perfect mate with which to form a SoulMate relationship with. This is the law of resonance, like attracts like. But understand that any ego beliefs you hold onto will also be reflected in any relationship you will manifest, so you have to work on constantly shifting to perceiving through the heart and not the ego. You are already experiencing this with the situation you've encountered with this man you are infatuated with. He is unavailable to you due to limiting beliefs you hold about Love.

But up there you said he wasnt my soulmate,he is just reflecting the love i feel inside me,that somebody else will be my soulmate...so,he isnt unavailable to me because i have limiting beliefs about love,he's unavailable because he isn't the one...right? I'm sorry i'm really confused about all this but it just sounds like you were saying 2 different things just now.

Your SoulMate is not a specific person to be found outside of you.

lol NOW i'm REALLY confused! But you said my soulmate will be brought into my life once i get over this guy...now its not even anyone outside of me?

I guarantee you that if you cast off your limiting beliefs about how Love should look and who it should be with, then you will find Love deeper and greater than you ever imagined.

THATS the problem...how can you not have an idea of who you want? Everyone has a preference,a type,and standards. If you open up your mind to be with ANYONE then it just sounds like you're being desperate,you dont care who they are or even if you're attracted to them. So how do you keep an open mind about who you are going to attract when you only like a certain type of person? I've dated guys who weren't my type and it only caused problems and i was never happy with them,so why leave it up to the universe who i get? That feels like an arranged marriage type situation LOL Where's the free will in choosing who you love?

Thanks for the link,i'll check it out!