OK......
I've tried following everyones replies here as closely as I can
, and the basic sense I'm getting here is that:
- Men and Women are different (not just biologically, but chemically, mentally, etc. as well), and noticing those differences doesn't make you sexist or a bigot
- Women are more emotional, irrational, security-seeking, etc. than men
- Most women are not attracted to emotional men, (and vice versa with reasoning)
(Like I said, I was trying to follow it as best as I can
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Also remember when I wrote my blog, I was thinking it could apply to women just as much so as men, like when I said at the beginning of the post:
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Of course this blog post is written from my own perspective, so for women, do the gender math.
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Originally Posted by Joely  I've begun to notice that what we do with relationships is walk in with an outcome in mind. A relationship is successful if he or she is everything we imagined and it lasts "forever". We expect the other person to provide us with something: a sense of being loved, secure, adored, whatever it happens to be, and when they don't do that, we feel that they've failed us somehow. I'm currently in the process of rejigging how I see relationships, moving from a mindset where the partner provides something to sharing life in something and growing together rather than leaning on each other as though we're missing something only the other can provide. Does that make sense? |
I think so, but does this mean you should blindly trust the other person? Take everything together on faith?
How can we tell ourselves to believe that potential partners would love you completely, never betray us, won't go sleeping around, etc.?
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Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan James, have you seen a movie called Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind? |
No.... what's it about?