As men we grow up surrounded by certain messages that aren't necessarily helpful. One is the concept of "soulmate", the idea that a girl is going to come along, kiss it, and make it all better. And in order to get that "soulmate", you have to supplicate, prove yourself to the woman, etc. Nature does not work this way and if you have a broken heart you most likely did it backwards. Her job is to prove herself to you (and let's hope you're a great guy who actually deserves a chick to prove herself to you) and to earn your affection. That is what turns a woman on, the challenge of trying to influence you. The more difficult it is for them to control you, the more they want you.
When you grow up treating women, as if you were a woman yourself, it becomes very frustrating that the woman is not attracted. After all, you were doing what the sitcoms and love songs told you to do. Oops. Women are attracted to men. Not boys acting like women.
Takes some readjusting. Give yourself the time to be bitter against women for a short time, it's necessary. But at a certain point, meaning when the "victim mentality" goes away, you should have a healthier perspective on this whole thing.
You can trust women, to be women. Fickle, controlled by their emotions, not really the same person from day to day. While that is frustrating at times it's also the very thing that attracts us to them. It's the polarity between man and woman. Male: strong, rational, mature. Woman: more emotional, child-like, intuitive.
We both have our strengths and weaknesses. We are different for a reason. Learn to make peace with that, let reality be what it is, then become a real man who doesn't let others control how he feels about himself. Then the chicks won't leave you alone.
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